One of the good things from having a tumblr is that I can receive questions.
One of these pertained to how I met my boyfriend. And the asker wasn't sure if they could trust sites like Recon...
I say, trust it, but use good judgement. There are always some people out there that will take advantage of those of us that are younger or newer to the world of kink and BDSM, and in the end it is up to you to decided who and what you can trust.
I think that sites like Recon, GearFetish, or RubberZone are all useful to meet those with similar interests as you, and for sure you can form great friendships, but it isn't until you meet up and get to know someone that you can really get into if you would be compatible in a relationship.
I honestly wasn't sure if I was happy when my boyfriend first messaged me as I thought he came on a bit strong, but I was also pretty fresh and new to the idea of meeting up even just to talk about gear let alone play in it.
There are those that are persistent and those that stalk...just know where you stand so you don't get a bad reputation or come off as too pushy. New people have the right to be "flaky" if you aren't catering to their needs as they need to learn to trust people, rather than those experienced players who can judge after one conversation.
All I can say is good luck on any search for a partner, and always be patient, as sometimes you need to stop looking for it to really work out.
One of these pertained to how I met my boyfriend. And the asker wasn't sure if they could trust sites like Recon...
I say, trust it, but use good judgement. There are always some people out there that will take advantage of those of us that are younger or newer to the world of kink and BDSM, and in the end it is up to you to decided who and what you can trust.
I think that sites like Recon, GearFetish, or RubberZone are all useful to meet those with similar interests as you, and for sure you can form great friendships, but it isn't until you meet up and get to know someone that you can really get into if you would be compatible in a relationship.
I honestly wasn't sure if I was happy when my boyfriend first messaged me as I thought he came on a bit strong, but I was also pretty fresh and new to the idea of meeting up even just to talk about gear let alone play in it.
There are those that are persistent and those that stalk...just know where you stand so you don't get a bad reputation or come off as too pushy. New people have the right to be "flaky" if you aren't catering to their needs as they need to learn to trust people, rather than those experienced players who can judge after one conversation.
All I can say is good luck on any search for a partner, and always be patient, as sometimes you need to stop looking for it to really work out.
