Ruined Shirt :(

So a recent tragedy has taken a rather new piece of gear and tainted it. I had been hanging my rubber stuff in my closet to keep the wrinkles off and as I didn't have a great place to keep the burgeoning collection. This was a great way considering my setup, which has some water pipes overhead. With the spring thaw here, the pipes, which I had never had clothes under before in this time of year, started to have condensation which dripped down for probably the course of a day while I was at work.

This doesn't look that bad, but check out the next one...

See, major stain line...   :(

This basically ruined my shirt, but luckily, only my shirt. There are fun little brownish copper like stains that are on the arm and part of the collar. This was pretty devastating  and I knew that it was rare for something like stained latex to resume its color.


I took the next night to soak the shirt in some soap and water to see if any of the stain would wash or rub off. This sort of worked out, I mean, if you look at the picture below is looks about as bad, but under regular, non-flash conditions it looks way better.

Now the line on the back collar isn't as obvious, and the sleeve is a bit less obvious as well.

I am really surprised it did work out, and I hope that I don't screw up any more of my gear for the time being and have decided to store my latex in a nice storage bin to keep water out and manage the wrinkle-ness of the gear.

Selling Old Gear

I have some things up on eBay. Take a look, it isn't anything special, but at least it will let some people expand their collections, so maybe it will give some people more than it sitting in my closet!

  

  

  

Boyfriend Bondage Time

Over the past few months of crazy life, I have had the fortune to still spend some time both kinky and non with the BF.

This included some more experimentations with rope bondage, which isn't exactly his area of interest. And he does a great job considering my suggestions, or what he refers to as whining when it comes to ropes digging into my skin or the harness cutting my underarms. It was all a great time, and he takes these times seriously, even with the playful suggestions.

Here are a some pics of the work, with some fun focused editing.

Overall I am happy he can still handle my razzing, as I love him and he loves me back. Hope you all enjoy!

Stay tuned for some more!

Jeez Life, Take a Chill Pill

So I haven't been playing good attention to this blog as I prefer to write well and have fun experiences to share. My main motivation for this blog is to chronicle the kinky happenings in my life, so that you and others that find this blog can relate to being in very rural areas, or having trouble finding people or time to play around with your fetishes!

Well now to throw the last few months at you rather quickly: (I will follow up with some pictures and further detail if I see people are reading or click those little check boxes at the bottom of the post)

In the time of my absence, including the span before my birthday, I have met more great people and had some great times!

For the most part I have enjoyed the pleasure of four main people: my boyfriend, cuffsman10; a local buddy back in town on spring break, DivePup; a friend of friends that is becoming a good friend, CrewBiker; and recently meeting up with a longer-time chat buddy, gsxr75000.

To go over some of the highlight and not-so-highlights:

I am having great opportunities to spend some well earned time with my boyfriend, we are currently going crazy trying to save money to eventually move away from our central-state woes. We both work hard and are putting away some money. (He works way harder and has way more shit to deal with at work!) We are also disappointed with the ability to find friends with any common interests, including those outside of the kinky/fetish world. We have found a few, but the combining schedules are not the best.

I got to have a run in with a great buddy, DivePup, when he was back in town for his spring break from his out of state school. I literally hung out with him for 5 minutes as I was up to other activities and he eventually was leaving town to enjoy the rest of his spring break. So basically this was a non-highlight as I felt that it would have been nice to spend a bit more time with him.

Cuffsman10 and I also have been talking a lot with CrewBiker and his partner. They had been kind enough to host us for a few evenings and we had some great times. I hope to get some of pictures posted soon, but alas, they are on Cuffsman10's phone, out of my current reach! I know I appreciate the visual stimuli to accompany words on my blog as much as others.

Lastly, I ended up stumbling across some sweet gear on eBay recently! I looked at the seller for trustworthiness with my bid and noticed they were located in state! I then proceeded to ask if they would allow for a local pickup depending on how far away I was from them. It turns out it was a guy that I have been yahoo chatting with for a while and hadn't met up with yet as the times didn't align. So I finally met with gsxr75000, and promply had a little fun time while picking up my newly purchased gear!

Recent Birthday!

So, I turned 25 recently and it was probably the best birthday I have celebrated yet!

On the days leading up to it, I jumped into freezing cold water for a charitable cause. It was the first time I had done that, and it was awesome!

Had a relaxing weekend and then spent time with my boyfriend on a little vacation away for some weekday fun as we both had arranged time off of work. We had a blast, doing tourist-y things in the city we visited and stayed at a great resort!

Had great food, huge drinks, which I got to get for free because it was my birthday, and then had a little tied-up fun later in the evening...(which I might share later if you are all lucky the next time I can find my camera cord!)

But otherwise, I will try to keep you all posted with anything new going on in my life, but like many of you, work keeps me busy, so I don't always get time to play, let alone just hang out with buddies both in person and online!

I am trying to re-configure my life to better use my time so I can be more of an asset to my relationship, spend more time with my boy, get into better shape, read more, and try to reconnect with more people, both vanilla friends and kinky ones! (And maybe jerk off less) So please hold the patience you already have with me posting, cause I prefer to make this good, and I feel that even this endeavour has started to falter because of my misplaced time.

Decided to explore the web for a BDSM flavored webcomic...

I was a bit bored the other day, so I started to search for a BDSM webcomic to read. I have seen others that feature elements of it, or that are based on the premise, but nothing really reached the real life experience as great as this one:

If you click the picture it will link you to the cover...(NSFW, like I need to tell you that from you viewing this blog)

The only problem I have is that I was really enthralled and it ended up getting me to the current post, which means now I have to wait for updates!

Chastity Device was For Sale, now SOLD

So I am cleaning out my toy box a bit as I realized that I don't really use everything. Check out this chastity device that I have had lying around, only had some light wear, otherwise been stored for a while.

Happily this was sold pretty quickly, so sorry if any of you missed out! Thanks if you saw it here and decided to buy it!

Some past recent events

So, since I started trying to actively resume the blog, I did get a chance to  meet with a few people and go to an event I hadn't been to before, sort of.

I met up with some great people and then eventually got my rubbery butt down to MIR this year, sort of.

I say sort of, as I wanted to make the trip with my boyfriend and he didn't get out of work until later on Saturday, so really we only caught the bar on Saturday night, and then a bit of the mart on Sunday before heading to Sidetracks for show tunes.

It was a great trip, but I know I missed everything except the camaraderie of the event. I did get to touch base and might get to volunteer next year as I missed most of the weekend this year. It seemed like a fun time at the mart even though it was winding down.

I am not really one to get into show tunes, but after going to Sidetracks and seeing the people having a crazy awesome time, and recognizing some songs, I was really enjoying the night with the boyfriend and a few buddies.

I think I even saw a few fellow kinky blogger people out, but was across the way from them, so didn't try to make an introduction.

Overall, MIR was a smaller event compared to IML, which is to be expected as it was focused on a specific fetish interest, but that doesn't mean it wasn't worth a trip to check out and see. I really hope that I have the free time (and my boyfriend does too!) so that we can make it down for the whole thing sometime in the future, as I really enjoyed the whole thing!

New Outfit (Christmas Follow Up)

So to follow up with that last one where I was basically found out about my latex fetish by my family, I had a little play session where I decided to wear my gear, basically the uniform shirt and pants below:

Well, afterwards, I took a little trip to my parents house, with the rubber under my clothes. And I asked my mom, who was badgering me to see the pants, if she wanted to see them for real.

Now you probably all realized that my mom is crazy and supportive, so she said yes.

And I proceeded to strip down to the rubber. She said they looked great! Eventually, she sort of asked why I have them, which I explained that they make me feel good in a sexual way, she already made that link. My father thought they looked good as well, saying it was a decent outfit, asking if the uniform was anything specific, which it isn't for me. My brother arrived home as I was removing the shirt, so my mom had me show it to him as well. He didn't say much, but wasn't too weird-ed out.

So most of my family has seen me in this, which was cool, as I feel accepted by them for this, and I feel pretty good about it. It was sort of fast, and they don't really know the whole of it probably, but it is still a great feeling to know that they support it, considering many parents are not as open and content with their children who have kinky habits.

Family Christmas Outing

So I recently made a hasty purchase the morning after a long night of drinking and I was thinking I would regret it. I bought some new pants...which were on sale, but I thought I had read then size wrong, but it turns out I was just a bit mistaken on how they would fit.

Here is a pic of the style I bought...

So I order that probably a month ago, and no worries, they were from overseas, so I thought it would take a while to arrive...and I waited and waited and no pants. Well it is the holidays, shipping could be pushed back...Flash forward to my family Christmas, my parents and siblings opening gifts. My boyfriend is there as well, and I open my box, and my mother says, "make sure to show everyone your gift."She said this cause the wrapped present was the pants that I had bought! That was fun (and super embarrassing , that cat was out of the bag, my siblings and parents knew I had a latex fetish...boy that wasn't hard at all, and I am sure I was only red for most of the night.

Here is a picture of the new pants with a uniform shirt I got at IML this year. I will need to take a better shot as you can't really tell that the pants are sailor fronts...

It seemed to go over well enough, I only received request to try them on which I declined at the time as I thought they might not fit, and it would be awkward. And then that was my joke for the day. Ha ha, at least it wasn't them finding me in them, which could be a bit worse...or them stumbling upon is before I tell them.Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays, I know I enjoyed mine.:)

Talking to a "rookie"

I was approached with a message via recon about kinky stuff and limits by someone looking to get more into the kinky side of things, here are some highlights:

Reconer: Part of me wants to be restrained to learn what a Dom does. Part of me wants to be restrained because avoiding immediate gratification sounds fucking hot. And I'd like to learn to avoid and to learn how to tease and restrain others. 
I know there are ways to do it wrong. So I want to learn how to tie right. I hope that makes sense. 
I guess my question to you would be, what are the characteristics of good and bad Doms?

Me: Ok, that makes sense.
So really you want to know what makes a good and bad Dom?
This might take a bit of messages to hammer out, but I will start off with communication. It is really important for the Dom to know what the sub is comfortable doing, or how far the sub is willing to push limits. I have played around with a few Doms who didn't really realize that what they were doing wasn't exactly something I cared for, or after being tied up and gagged you can't seem to tell them that you are losing feeling in your right arm which is too tight, that sort of thing.
I will think a bit more, but is this sort of what you want?

Reconer: Yes. Exactly. So you are saying to set up the scene ahead of time. Don't gag your boy until you know the ties are right. Check in with him periodically to make sure it's all good.

Me: That is a good start, but you also need to work on whether the boy wouldn't want to know what is exactly going to happen or feel babied, some want the control taken away, so that is important to communicate.
It might be that you tell him you plan to tie him up and edge his cock, maybe having him suck you off or something, but really get an idea for what you might want to do and if anything, just play it safe based on their feedback.

Reconer: I'm not 100% sure I followed so let me rephrase. 
Ask the boy if he wants to set all parameters up front. If he does, follow them in an interesting and exciting way. 
If he wants to let go of control. Be forceful and respectful, pleasing each other. This seems the harder tack to take because it requires in-the-moment communication to make sure boundaries aren't being pushed too far.

Me: Yes, but the setting of some boundaries is paramount no matter what. When we get into play like that here is a lot of trust being played with as well, so it is important to know what each side wants or expects. Does that make sense?

Reconer: Yeah. It makes sense. I've even come up with some rules for getting started. I've found a couple of websites and a group that gets together.

That was pretty much the educational highlight, with more chatting happening around this, but

Bondage Vacation Massachusetts

So I was on a trip, where I was away from my boyfriend for 2 weeks, not long, but long enough to make me miss him and also get me horny.

Being in a new place with the chance to meet new people he allowed me to explore playing around with someone when I was out in Massachusetts. I was trying to arrange something during the weekend with anyone who would pay me mind and had enough references not to be a creeper. I was talking to two or three different people, and I met up with 2 of the three.

The first was bondageforme, a great guy that has had some great experiences in his life. I wasn't a huge fan of his photo-less profile (as that normally leads to insecure people who might be flaky), but he sent me them in a message as soon as I asked citing reasons enough for the lack of publicity. It was a great time, I have a few pictures, but the lighting was horrible where we played, and he didn't get a chance to get a variety of angles because of the limited space (stupid small hotel rooms!), but it was a great time!

Here are a few shots from that play session where I was mummified and played with, wearing this hot PVC thigh high hooker boots (which are harder to stand in then I thought!)

I also talked and met up with releasethekraken, who lead me around the city. We didn't play because I was having trouble with my boyfriend, who I thought was giving me the guilt trip about playing without permission,  but it was all a big misunderstanding. I felt like and idiot, but I later explained and releasethekraken understood.

I was also in talks to meet up with another, but they got held up with work one afternoon when we were planning to grab a drink and talk a bit. But maybe sometime in the future we could hang out, if I make it out there again, or if he makes it out here.

Overall, it was a hectic little trip, but it was nice to meet new people and explore a new place!

Just couldn't stay away...

So although I was taking a break for this, I still did see the comments that hit my email box about the last post and I kept thinking about what this means to me. It wasn't until this past week when I realized that people look to me as a source or information as much as random kinky acts described and detailed...

I have been chatting with a person or two from various fetish sites like Recon and GearFetish to name a few, and it has been enlightening to see the impact that I can have.

I have been asked some good questions and I will probably take time to document a conversation or two on here as it is really information everyone should read or have an idea of.

Stay tuned.

My Terms

I don't really have much more to say right away with this, so I think I will probably hold off on any great posts until I get them. I don't think many people check this often now that I have been pretty distant between the posts.

If you really like this, feel free to comment here, otherwise, I will just update it as I feel like, rather than currently when I feel that I let you all down if you look at this hoping to hear more. So now that I have let myself out of my mental commitment here, I am sure things will either flow out onto this, or I will have more quality posts.

Hope it was good so far, hope to bring better in the future.

New Age Meet-ups and Networking

I think I will elaborate on this for another post, but the idea struck me and I had a moment to write, so here it is...

Recently, I have taken a step back to get some work done, pay some bills, and that has pulled me from the kinky playtime that I could have been having. I have a wonderful boyfriend to play with, but I seem to inadvertently ignore him at times because of personal frustrations and issues. This brought me to re-focus a bit and to reflect on the chance meetings that I have had.

I have met many people, and at first that was due to the power of the internet and sites like Recon, GearFetish, and RubberZone among others. It took a while to find these sites and to even get the courage to fully utilize them for what they are.

I guess I am lucky that I have the opportunity to use such great tools for expanding and networking in the community. They helped me meet my first tie-up experience and even my boyfriend, as well as people that got me to take a trip to IML. This event then helped me expand my currently friend-base and meet even more great people.

I think it is easy to forget that there were days that this wasn't the norm, and meeting up wasn't as easy for those of us in rather isolated areas without outing kinks, or being judged by those who didn't like some kinks rather than others. I have to say that I am thankful for the opportunity not only to reach people using these kinky networking sites, but even to publish this blog.

Been Busy, New Shorts!

I am not sure if any of you are regular readers anymore as I know I have been lacking in the posting department, but I was really just busy with work and getting things settled at the new place. I also was helping my family work on some projects, let alone enjoying the holiday times of recent.

I just thought that I would update you all to see if anyone was missing what I was writing. I am hoping for some fun time in the near future as I recently got some rubber shorts that I ordered a long time ago from a website/company based out of Germany. So if anything, look for a post about the shorts and probably me modeling them at some point.

Here are some pictures from their site of what I ordered...maybe you can guess the items...(there are two different things)

Life Changes

There has been some major shifts in my life, and I initiated one recently. From this shift, I have told my parents that I am gay, and that I have a boyfriend. This is sort of a big deal for me, as it would be for anyone. And I am thankful that they accept me for who I am and have become. Even though I don't often see my parents as much as I used to, they are still a great support and I am not sure what I could have done to cope if they didn't understand or accept me at least this much.

I hope that everyone can reach people like how I reached my parents for guidance. If for some reason your related family can not accept you, then they don't love you like they thought or said they do, or they are just upset for not being able to comprehend the greatness that you are. Being true to yourself is what really matters, and a real family would understand that.

I hope everyone can be accepted someday, but for now, I am happy that I have earned that little bit from my parents. I can only hope that my life can continue on this path.

IML 2012 part 4

Well, this is the forth installment about my weekend, and will be the last, unless I get considerably more creative and energetic, I will just leave it at this unless that muse strikes me.

But it was really a great time, and for the rest of it was more shopping in the "mart", more great meals with people, and meeting those that I have chatted with as well as some new faces!

To describe a bit of this, I had dinner with some people that were from Florida and Colorado that I met through Fossil9. It was a great time with NateQx and FlyboyFL, let alone meet up with flabound, Mplsguy, YngMstrDetroit, and colobondage28boy.

Through the time I was placed in YngMstrDetroit's vac cube and was teased with the Venus 2000. 

Basically, I was in the position that this guy was in from one of YngMstrDetroit's videos from Xtube.

This was really a great first! I loved the encasement and restriction of the vac cube, it only makes me want to try a vac rack at some point sooner in the future, let alone being played with via the Venus, which really worked me over and got me so close to cumming many times, only to drive me overly sensitive. I didn't immediately cum from this experience, but everyone seems to love the experience like I did, even if I didn't get to completely convey how it was amazing and life altering! I enjoyed thinking about that experience the next time I got off and for future times with how much it just impacted my fetish interests!

Otherwise, the whole weekend wrapped up and I said my bittersweet goodbyes to those that I met again and for the first time as I headed back to my life in central Wisconsin and back to my job.

I will also take the time to mention that I also was privileged enough to get a handshake from Mr. "Savage Love" himself, Dan Savage! It is funny as I think he doesn't realize the impact he has had on people's lives, as his column helped me explain my fetish interests to my girlfriend and even get her to try pegging with me, which she loves as a power exchange.

IML 2012 Part 3 - Fun with Jonathan Switch

I feel that this post will just consist of the playtime I was lucky enough to have with jonathanSwitch, a youthful, attractive, former Chicago resident that moved away and returned for IML. I met him last IML, and he was just a great guy and personality and I love the energy that he gives off.

Basically, cuffsman10 arranged for Jonathan to come up for some playtime and we had fun, first with me and cuffsman10 taking control of him rather unexpectedly. It was a great spontaneous and fun time! See some of the fun picture below!

Then  jonathanSwitch turned the tables and bound me and then cuffsman10 and me together to have us get each other off, before he was on his way.

I walked around the "mart" with him later, and even met up with him during the evening to have some more fun chats. I really enjoy the contact that I can have with him, and everyone that I met at IML like him that helps make what I would consider a younger generation a better community.

Part 4 to come shortly!

IML 2012 part 2

Well, after day one which was a lot of fun attending the parties and staying up late talking in the lobby, it was time to actually look deeper into the "mart" and to take care of other meets and food times. We arranged some lunch with friends and it took us a while to find close dinning that didn't require an hour wait, but when we did we found the best place possible and had a great meal. Then shopping ensued, as cuffsman10 was on a mission for some leather items and I was still looking for some sort of rubber underwear or a jock. We found a great shirt for him, but I didn't see anything I specifically wanted.We met up with various people in the mart, which eventually lead to cuffsman10 going off to play with a new buddy CrewBiker. I was left to have fun with KinkMaven and he offered to put me in his leather straight jacket. Being that I rarely get into straight jackets, being I think one time outside of this, I jumped for the opportunity.

This continued until we all met up again and had a great night of just taking it easy and socializing, turning in earlier than previous nights, but still having a full day.

I will have a bit more to say as the days come back to me, as I know this might be out of order in turn of events, but I can't complain if it was all a great time!