Blog Description

This is really a place for me to express my kinky side to all of those that would like to partake in it. Hopefully, it gives anyone in similar situations inspiration and drive to make things happen.

I know what it was like to feel different and not to have people nearby to talk to about some of it, but eventually you encounter those that help you out and educate you on the world you want to explore. So play safe!

Monday, December 31, 2012

New Outfit (Christmas Follow Up)

So to follow up with that last one where I was basically found out about my latex fetish by my family, I had a little play session where I decided to wear my gear, basically the uniform shirt and pants below:

Well, afterwards, I took a little trip to my parents house, with the rubber under my clothes. And I asked my mom, who was badgering me to see the pants, if she wanted to see them for real.

Now you probably all realized that my mom is crazy and supportive, so she said yes.

And I proceeded to strip down to the rubber. She said they looked great! Eventually, she sort of asked why I have them, which I explained that they make me feel good in a sexual way, she already made that link. My father thought they looked good as well, saying it was a decent outfit, asking if the uniform was anything specific, which it isn't for me. My brother arrived home as I was removing the shirt, so my mom had me show it to him as well. He didn't say much, but wasn't too weird-ed out.

So most of my family has seen me in this, which was cool, as I feel accepted by them for this, and I feel pretty good about it. It was sort of fast, and they don't really know the whole of it probably, but it is still a great feeling to know that they support it, considering many parents are not as open and content with their children who have kinky habits.

Friday, December 28, 2012

Family Christmas Outing

So I recently made a hasty purchase the morning after a long night of drinking and I was thinking I would regret it. I bought some new pants...which were on sale, but I thought I had read then size wrong, but it turns out I was just a bit mistaken on how they would fit.

Here is a pic of the style I bought...

So I order that probably a month ago, and no worries, they were from overseas, so I thought it would take a while to arrive...and I waited and waited and no pants. Well it is the holidays, shipping could be pushed back...Flash forward to my family Christmas, my parents and siblings opening gifts. My boyfriend is there as well, and I open my box, and my mother says, "make sure to show everyone your gift."She said this cause the wrapped present was the pants that I had bought! That was fun (and super embarrassing , that cat was out of the bag, my siblings and parents knew I had a latex fetish...boy that wasn't hard at all, and I am sure I was only red for most of the night.

Here is a picture of the new pants with a uniform shirt I got at IML this year. I will need to take a better shot as you can't really tell that the pants are sailor fronts...

It seemed to go over well enough, I only received request to try them on which I declined at the time as I thought they might not fit, and it would be awkward. And then that was my joke for the day. Ha ha, at least it wasn't them finding me in them, which could be a bit worse...or them stumbling upon is before I tell them.Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays, I know I enjoyed mine.:)

Thursday, November 29, 2012

Talking to a "rookie"

I was approached with a message via recon about kinky stuff and limits by someone looking to get more into the kinky side of things, here are some highlights:
Reconer: Part of me wants to be restrained to learn what a Dom does. Part of me wants to be restrained because avoiding immediate gratification sounds fucking hot. And I'd like to learn to avoid and to learn how to tease and restrain others. 
I know there are ways to do it wrong. So I want to learn how to tie right. I hope that makes sense. 
I guess my question to you would be, what are the characteristics of good and bad Doms?
Me: Ok, that makes sense.
So really you want to know what makes a good and bad Dom?
This might take a bit of messages to hammer out, but I will start off with communication. It is really important for the Dom to know what the sub is comfortable doing, or how far the sub is willing to push limits. I have played around with a few Doms who didn't really realize that what they were doing wasn't exactly something I cared for, or after being tied up and gagged you can't seem to tell them that you are losing feeling in your right arm which is too tight, that sort of thing.
I will think a bit more, but is this sort of what you want?
Reconer: Yes. Exactly. So you are saying to set up the scene ahead of time. Don't gag your boy until you know the ties are right. Check in with him periodically to make sure it's all good.
Me: That is a good start, but you also need to work on whether the boy wouldn't want to know what is exactly going to happen or feel babied, some want the control taken away, so that is important to communicate.
It might be that you tell him you plan to tie him up and edge his cock, maybe having him suck you off or something, but really get an idea for what you might want to do and if anything, just play it safe based on their feedback.
Reconer: I'm not 100% sure I followed so let me rephrase. 
Ask the boy if he wants to set all parameters up front. If he does, follow them in an interesting and exciting way. 
If he wants to let go of control. Be forceful and respectful, pleasing each other. This seems the harder tack to take because it requires in-the-moment communication to make sure boundaries aren't being pushed too far.
Me: Yes, but the setting of some boundaries is paramount no matter what. When we get into play like that here is a lot of trust being played with as well, so it is important to know what each side wants or expects. Does that make sense?
Reconer: Yeah. It makes sense. I've even come up with some rules for getting started. I've found a couple of websites and a group that gets together.
That was pretty much the educational highlight, with more chatting happening around this, but

Sunday, November 25, 2012

Bondage Vacation Massachusetts

So I was on a trip, where I was away from my boyfriend for 2 weeks, not long, but long enough to make me miss him and also get me horny.

Being in a new place with the chance to meet new people he allowed me to explore playing around with someone when I was out in Massachusetts. I was trying to arrange something during the weekend with anyone who would pay me mind and had enough references not to be a creeper. I was talking to two or three different people, and I met up with 2 of the three.

The first was bondageforme, a great guy that has had some great experiences in his life. I wasn't a huge fan of his photo-less profile (as that normally leads to insecure people who might be flaky), but he sent me them in a message as soon as I asked citing reasons enough for the lack of publicity. It was a great time, I have a few pictures, but the lighting was horrible where we played, and he didn't get a chance to get a variety of angles because of the limited space (stupid small hotel rooms!), but it was a great time!

Here are a few shots from that play session where I was mummified and played with, wearing this hot PVC thigh high hooker boots (which are harder to stand in then I thought!)

I also talked and met up with releasethekraken, who lead me around the city. We didn't play because I was having trouble with my boyfriend, who I thought was giving me the guilt trip about playing without permission,  but it was all a big misunderstanding. I felt like and idiot, but I later explained and releasethekraken understood.

I was also in talks to meet up with another, but they got held up with work one afternoon when we were planning to grab a drink and talk a bit. But maybe sometime in the future we could hang out, if I make it out there again, or if he makes it out here.

Overall, it was a hectic little trip, but it was nice to meet new people and explore a new place!

Saturday, November 17, 2012

Just couldn't stay away...

So although I was taking a break for this, I still did see the comments that hit my email box about the last post and I kept thinking about what this means to me. It wasn't until this past week when I realized that people look to me as a source or information as much as random kinky acts described and detailed...

I have been chatting with a person or two from various fetish sites like Recon and GearFetish to name a few, and it has been enlightening to see the impact that I can have.

I have been asked some good questions and I will probably take time to document a conversation or two on here as it is really information everyone should read or have an idea of.

Stay tuned.

Sunday, September 30, 2012

My Terms

I don't really have much more to say right away with this, so I think I will probably hold off on any great posts until I get them. I don't think many people check this often now that I have been pretty distant between the posts.

If you really like this, feel free to comment here, otherwise, I will just update it as I feel like, rather than currently when I feel that I let you all down if you look at this hoping to hear more. So now that I have let myself out of my mental commitment here, I am sure things will either flow out onto this, or I will have more quality posts.

Hope it was good so far, hope to bring better in the future.

Monday, July 16, 2012

New Age Meet-ups and Networking

I think I will elaborate on this for another post, but the idea struck me and I had a moment to write, so here it is...

Recently, I have taken a step back to get some work done, pay some bills, and that has pulled me from the kinky playtime that I could have been having. I have a wonderful boyfriend to play with, but I seem to inadvertently ignore him at times because of personal frustrations and issues. This brought me to re-focus a bit and to reflect on the chance meetings that I have had.

I have met many people, and at first that was due to the power of the internet and sites like Recon, GearFetish, and RubberZone among others. It took a while to find these sites and to even get the courage to fully utilize them for what they are.

I guess I am lucky that I have the opportunity to use such great tools for expanding and networking in the community. They helped me meet my first tie-up experience and even my boyfriend, as well as people that got me to take a trip to IML. This event then helped me expand my currently friend-base and meet even more great people.

I think it is easy to forget that there were days that this wasn't the norm, and meeting up wasn't as easy for those of us in rather isolated areas without outing kinks, or being judged by those who didn't like some kinks rather than others. I have to say that I am thankful for the opportunity not only to reach people using these kinky networking sites, but even to publish this blog.

Tuesday, July 10, 2012

Been Busy, New Shorts!

I am not sure if any of you are regular readers anymore as I know I have been lacking in the posting department, but I was really just busy with work and getting things settled at the new place. I also was helping my family work on some projects, let alone enjoying the holiday times of recent.

I just thought that I would update you all to see if anyone was missing what I was writing. I am hoping for some fun time in the near future as I recently got some rubber shorts that I ordered a long time ago from a website/company based out of Germany. So if anything, look for a post about the shorts and probably me modeling them at some point.

Here are some pictures from their site of what I ordered...maybe you can guess the items...(there are two different things)

Sunday, June 10, 2012

Life Changes

There has been some major shifts in my life, and I initiated one recently. From this shift, I have told my parents that I am gay, and that I have a boyfriend. This is sort of a big deal for me, as it would be for anyone. And I am thankful that they accept me for who I am and have become. Even though I don't often see my parents as much as I used to, they are still a great support and I am not sure what I could have done to cope if they didn't understand or accept me at least this much.

I hope that everyone can reach people like how I reached my parents for guidance. If for some reason your related family can not accept you, then they don't love you like they thought or said they do, or they are just upset for not being able to comprehend the greatness that you are. Being true to yourself is what really matters, and a real family would understand that.

I hope everyone can be accepted someday, but for now, I am happy that I have earned that little bit from my parents. I can only hope that my life can continue on this path.

Thursday, June 7, 2012

IML 2012 part 4

Well, this is the forth installment about my weekend, and will be the last, unless I get considerably more creative and energetic, I will just leave it at this unless that muse strikes me.

But it was really a great time, and for the rest of it was more shopping in the "mart", more great meals with people, and meeting those that I have chatted with as well as some new faces!

To describe a bit of this, I had dinner with some people that were from Florida and Colorado that I met through Fossil9. It was a great time with NateQx and FlyboyFL, let alone meet up with flabound, Mplsguy, YngMstrDetroit, and colobondage28boy.

Through the time I was placed in YngMstrDetroit's vac cube and was teased with the Venus 2000. 

Basically, I was in the position that this guy was in from one of YngMstrDetroit's videos from Xtube.

This was really a great first! I loved the encasement and restriction of the vac cube, it only makes me want to try a vac rack at some point sooner in the future, let alone being played with via the Venus, which really worked me over and got me so close to cumming many times, only to drive me overly sensitive. I didn't immediately cum from this experience, but everyone seems to love the experience like I did, even if I didn't get to completely convey how it was amazing and life altering! I enjoyed thinking about that experience the next time I got off and for future times with how much it just impacted my fetish interests!

Otherwise, the whole weekend wrapped up and I said my bittersweet goodbyes to those that I met again and for the first time as I headed back to my life in central Wisconsin and back to my job.

I will also take the time to mention that I also was privileged enough to get a handshake from Mr. "Savage Love" himself, Dan Savage! It is funny as I think he doesn't realize the impact he has had on people's lives, as his column helped me explain my fetish interests to my girlfriend and even get her to try pegging with me, which she loves as a power exchange.

Tuesday, June 5, 2012

IML 2012 Part 3 - Fun with Jonathan Switch

I feel that this post will just consist of the playtime I was lucky enough to have with jonathanSwitch, a youthful, attractive, former Chicago resident that moved away and returned for IML. I met him last IML, and he was just a great guy and personality and I love the energy that he gives off.

Basically, cuffsman10 arranged for Jonathan to come up for some playtime and we had fun, first with me and cuffsman10 taking control of him rather unexpectedly. It was a great spontaneous and fun time! See some of the fun picture below!

Then  jonathanSwitch turned the tables and bound me and then cuffsman10 and me together to have us get each other off, before he was on his way.

I walked around the "mart" with him later, and even met up with him during the evening to have some more fun chats. I really enjoy the contact that I can have with him, and everyone that I met at IML like him that helps make what I would consider a younger generation a better community.

Part 4 to come shortly!

Monday, June 4, 2012

IML 2012 part 2

Well, after day one which was a lot of fun attending the parties and staying up late talking in the lobby, it was time to actually look deeper into the "mart" and to take care of other meets and food times. We arranged some lunch with friends and it took us a while to find close dinning that didn't require an hour wait, but when we did we found the best place possible and had a great meal. Then shopping ensued, as cuffsman10 was on a mission for some leather items and I was still looking for some sort of rubber underwear or a jock. We found a great shirt for him, but I didn't see anything I specifically wanted.We met up with various people in the mart, which eventually lead to cuffsman10 going off to play with a new buddy CrewBiker. I was left to have fun with KinkMaven and he offered to put me in his leather straight jacket. Being that I rarely get into straight jackets, being I think one time outside of this, I jumped for the opportunity.

This continued until we all met up again and had a great night of just taking it easy and socializing, turning in earlier than previous nights, but still having a full day.

I will have a bit more to say as the days come back to me, as I know this might be out of order in turn of events, but I can't complain if it was all a great time!

Sunday, June 3, 2012

IML 2012 part 1

There was a lot going on this year for my second IML weekend! Even though I got down there early and was checked in by noon on Friday, it still seemed to all run by me. I was in the "mart" buying new gear and socializing and almost missed time for dinner and to make it to the few events that happen on Friday that I wanted to attend. I eventually made it after a gear change to the Chicago Rubbermen party, and the Gearblast party that followed that, even running around to the other party that was going on, I think the San Francisco party, where I met a few new people and even saw people that are in BoundGods videos...which was sort of cool!

Of all that I documented via camera, I didn't get shots of my new gear, but I did get shots of my last recently purchased Invincible Rubber surf suit and some play in that!

I know some people are wondering why I don't mention the contest events, but as this is only my second IML, I still am working on making everything fall into place, let alone the cost and planning to make it to the contest. Maybe next year, or maybe at my fifth IML, we will see, but I am happy with the general socialization that I get from the people I almost never get to see in person and this is a great time for me to hang out with them, let alone have some fun playtime!

For now, enjoy these few shots while I work on what else I can recount for you all!

Saturday, June 2, 2012

Side tracked by television commercial...

I caught this commercial on last night, it was pretty hot, and really makes me wish my girlfriend was here to do something similar, only sans Tequila for other sexual things...

Friday, June 1, 2012


I recently graduated college! It was a big step, and now I am about in the real world. I have moved in with my boyfriend and still get to see my girlfriend who intends to move in when she is done with her job!

I can't wait for us to all be together! But for now I have obtained the ever elusive job that many college graduates struggle to get, and I am not going to let them down as I work my tail off.

Besides that I got to go to IML again, and it was great, I think I am going to put up a few different posts to describe the fun activities that I was up to so some of you all know.

Thursday, May 31, 2012

Back with a Vengeance!

Now that I am done with school I intend to fill you all in with what has been going on. You might ask, why now? The answer is, that I just have everything the way that I wanted it to be and just got back from my second trip to IML in Chicago. I met more people, had more fun, and have more to tell you all! But this will be written later as it is 1:15AM, and I have shit to do tomorrow as work starts shortly and I need to be ready for it all, but the weekend is looking rather open, at least enough for a post or a few!

Thursday, April 26, 2012

BOUND by Fossil9: A few favorites (53 - Kinkyboinick)

Check this out as I am mentioned in a nice post on fossil9's blog, BOUND:

BOUND by Fossil9: A few favorites (53 - Kinkyboinick): These photos of  Kinkyboinick   are a few of my favorite.  In the top photo he fell asleep on a sunny Saturday afternoon while chained up ...

Thursday, April 12, 2012

Stupid Real World

I just wanted to take a moment to rant to you all, if you still look at this as I know that I haven't updated it in a while, but this is really the first time that I feel that my real life has really crashed into what I normally try or at least want to do occasionally. I have been super swamped with school, which sucks, and that means no blogs, no playtime, nothing, which both gets me angry and tired fast without the reliefs that I normally get.

I can sense that my partners are understanding of the tension, but I hate not having the energy to just have a short fun tie up session with him, or a really good bondage session with her either.

Well, at least to end this rant, I will post a picture that I took a while back that I am not sure I have posted anywhere but my tumblr in a bit.

Enjoy all!

I think I posted this before...but I plan for more in the future!

Friday, March 16, 2012

Busy as hell

You know it and I know it. I have not been able to really give this thing my all since my last semester in school started in late January. I can't promise that I will have anything more to say until at least the middle of May after I get done and graduate, which is funny, as IML is also coming up then, and I hope to go again this year as I am not sure if I could make it in the future.

So if you see anything else on here, consider it an exclusive treat. On the plus side, I have gotten plenty of time with my partners and hope to spend much more with them as I love them both so very much!

I will try to get something worthy to post for you guys....eventually, but I need time.

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Questions from Tublr

One of the good things from having a tumblr is that I can receive questions.

One of these pertained to how I met my boyfriend. And the asker wasn't sure if they could trust sites like Recon...

I say, trust it, but use good judgement. There are always some people out there that will take advantage of those of us that are younger or newer to the world of kink and BDSM, and in the end it is up to you to decided who and what you can trust.

I think that sites like Recon, GearFetish, or RubberZone are all useful to meet those with similar interests as you, and for sure you can form great friendships, but it isn't until you meet up and get to know someone that you can really get into if you would be compatible in a relationship.

I honestly wasn't sure if I was happy when my boyfriend first messaged me as I thought he came on a bit strong, but I was also pretty fresh and new to the idea of meeting up even just to talk about gear let alone play in it.

There are those that are persistent and those that stalk...just know where you stand so you don't get a bad reputation or come off as too pushy. New people have the right to be "flaky" if you aren't catering to their needs as they need to learn to trust people, rather than those experienced players who can judge after one conversation.

All I can say is good luck on any search for a partner, and always be patient, as sometimes you need to stop looking for it to really work out.

Monday, February 6, 2012

Pup Tail Special

I got my usual product email from Mr. S leather goods  and noticed that they are having a special on their SquarePeg pup tails! I would check it out if you have ever wanted one as they are slightly cheaper for the time! (Currently 15% off)

Click here to be taken to that page!

Puppy Tail

Wednesday, February 1, 2012

The Power of the Internet

Here is something that I recently saw on a photo sharing site. I can't remember if it was, or something similar. I saw it and immediately thought about how people get into kinks from something as innocent as a game, or in this sense, a cartoon character realizing that they might like what is happening as they play a game.


Super cute, right? I am sorry if I just happened to shatter the innocence of my little ponies...but they started it!

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Getting back to it

I am finally back at school and reunited with the majority of my gear. I didn't take most of it with me on break as I was going to be with my parents and family and I just didn't need them to find any of it yet.

I don't know what I will really get into yet, but I want to have some good quality gear time shortly. I had a night of fun with my boyfriend recently, and I hope for some more big plans on the horizon! Maybe some fun submissive time with my girlfriend, almost like the little time that I got over the break as a pup!

Thursday, January 19, 2012

Making a Tublr

I have decided to explore the world of Tumblr. The main reason that I am doing this is to claim some of the fun pictures that are out there of me and the boyfriend playing around. I might eventually start just adding random pictures, but we will see.

If you wanted to check it out, the address is

Thursday, January 12, 2012

Whatever It Takes

I remember hating those teen romantic-comedy type movies from the 90's based on the John Hugh's stuff from the 80's. But that doesn't mean that I didn't catch them on TV or when hanging out with friends...

Some of my favorite scenes involved some of the creative humiliations in these films. Here are a few images that I recently found of one of my favorites, involving James Franco being gagged and tied to a bed at a hotel room after the Prom, where many girls and guys can see him and even end up writing all over his body with lipstick.

Her vengeance is just palpable....and he is left like this for everyone to see

Here he is later in the evening, not close to over yet.

Friday, January 6, 2012

Puppy Play with the BF (Part 2)

Here is the second part of Cuffsman10 and me playing pup time. I love him in some sexy latex too! Yummy!

Wednesday, January 4, 2012

Puppy Play with the BF (Part 1)

I already posted a picture of some of this session, but I thought I would re-hash it cause it was fun and I have been feeling really into my pup mindset recently.

Hope you all enjoy!

Even got to use my recently acquired helmet too!

Tuesday, January 3, 2012

Sexy Red Rubber!

Check out this sexy red rubber suit!

I can't wait to get my rubber gear on again...